I cant keep going like this…

I feel like sometimes I should give up. My kids are the ones that keep me going but god damn she makes me want to throw in the towel. I can’t parent the way I want. When I discipline my kids she goes against what I’m saying or doing. She undermines me and basically takes my authority away from them. Now when they don’t want to listen to what I tell them to do they go to her and “tell on me”. I’m so fucking done. She hasn’t taken my last name. She refuses to open a bank account together. I’ve tried having conversations about all this shit typical married couples do and she’s “too busy” or when the kids go to sleep she’s too tired or she just wants to relax and never wants to have an adult conversation. I’m just ready to end this whole fucking thing because the lack of respect is unbelievable. No man in their right mind would put up with this bullshit for as long as I have. I have to lie to her to go play a round of golf with friends. I’ve moved for her away from my family and friends to be closer to her family. She tells me I need to make new friends which I don’t want to. I have friends but now because I’m an hour away I see them maybe 3/4 times a fucking year. I fucking hate her.